Sunday, August 23, 2009

UNC study: To build resilience, don't worry, see happy

Researcher says focus on small moments

CHAPEL HILL - People who seed their life with frequent moments of positive emotions increase their resilience against challenges, according to a new study by a UNC psychologist and colleagues.

The study, "Happiness Unpacked: Positive Emotions Increase Life Satisfaction by Building Resilience," appears in the June issue of the bimonthly journal Emotion.

"This study shows that if happiness is something you want out of life, then focusing daily on the small moments and cultivating positive emotions is the way to go," said Barbara Fredrickson, Ph.D., Kenan Distinguished Professor of Psychology in UNC's College of Arts and Sciences and the principal investigator of the Positive Emotions and Psychophysiology Laboratory. "Those small moments let positive emotions blossom, and that helps us become more open. That openness then helps us build resources that can help us rebound better from adversity and stress, ward off depression and continue to grow."

In the month long study, 86 participants were asked to submit daily "emotion reports," rather than answering general questions like, "Over the last few months, how much joy did you feel?"

"Getting those daily reports helped us gather more accurate recollections of feelings and allowed us to capture emotional ups and downs," said Fredrickson, a leading expert in the field of positive psychology.

Building up a daily diet of positive emotions does not require banishing negative emotions, she said.

The study helps show that to be happy, people do not need to adopt a "Pollyannaish" approach and deny the upsetting aspects of life.

"The levels of positive emotions that produced good benefits weren't extreme. Participants with average and stable levels of positive emotions still showed growth in resilience even when their days included negative emotions."


Friday, July 31, 2009

What is the Greatest Gift?


What is the greatest gift?
Could it be the world itself—the oceans, the meadowlark,
the patience of the trees in the wind?
Could it be love, with its sweet clamor of passion?


Something else—something else entirely holds me in thrall.
That you have a life that I wonder about
more than I wonder about my own.
That you have a life—courteous and intelligent—that
I wonder about more than I wonder about my own.
That you have a soul—your own, no one else's—that
I wonder about more than I wonder about my own.
So that I find my soul clapping its hands for yours more than my own.

Mary Oliver, from Red Bird: Poems
published by Beacon Press

Monday, July 20, 2009

Lost love letter reunites couple after 16 years

Lost love letter reunites couple after 16 yearsAFP/File – A couple embrace at sunset in Peru. A British man and his Spanish former sweetheart have finally married …

LONDON (AFP) – A British man and his Spanish former sweetheart have finally married 16 years after they drifted apart, reunited by a love letter lost behind a fireplace for over a decade, reports said on Monday.

Steve Smith and Carmen Ruiz-Perez, both now 42, fell in love 17 years ago when she was a foreign exchange student in Brixham, southwest England, and got engaged after only a year together.

But their relationship ended after she moved France to run a shop in Paris.

A few years later, in a bid to rekindle their love, Smith sent a letter to her mother's home in Spain. It was placed on the mantelpiece, but slipped down behind the fireplace and was lost for over a decade.

The missing missive was only found when builders removed the fireplace during renovation work.

"When I got the letter I didn't phone Steve right away because I was so nervous," Ruiz-Perez told the Herald Express local newspaper.

"I nearly didn't phone him at all. I kept picking up the phone then putting it down again.

"But I knew I had to make the call."

When they were reunited, it was as if time had stood still, said Smith, a factory supervisor.

"When we met again it was like a film. We ran across the airport into each other's arms. We met up and fell in love all over again. Within 30 seconds of setting eyes on each other we were kissing.

"I'm just glad the letter did eventually end up where it was supposed to be," he said, after the couple married last Friday.

Saturday, July 4, 2009


Body*Mind*Heart

Retreat

Sayulita, Fall 2009


Rediscover the Passionate Life


BODY … Come, indulge your senses. Let your body luxuriate in the gentle caress of the sea. Feel the warmth of the sun melt your rough edges away. Surrender to the loving hands of your heart-centered masseuse, your soul-centered healer, your wellness-centered acupuncturist. Let us help you reawaken your body to its natural state of sensory bliss.


MIND … Come, quiet your mind. Invite your heart to take the reins. Let your fears subside, your desires reemerge,,your needs finally be heard. Let us help you see the illuminated path before your eyes, the one pregnant with nothing but your heart’s desire.


HEART … Come, honor your heart. Give yourself the gift of creative time, leisure time, time to realize your secret dreams and passions. Erase all have-to’s and requirements. Immerse yourself in raw, beautiful, genuine contentment. And emerge more heart-centered than ever before.


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Tuesday, June 23, 2009

Giggles from my kid-heart to yours

Our childhood giggles are only as far away as we let them be!

Sunday, June 21, 2009

Do you see Magic?





I do!
(all photos courtesy of generous artists on the web...please let me know if you want to know where/who and if anyone is unhappy with them here, please let me know!)

Sunday, June 7, 2009

Open Discussion

If you had to choose, 
would you say it is 
your head
or your heart
 that motivates your days?
 If you answered 
'my head',
 what would make it easier for
 you to really follow
 your heart? 

I am very interested in your comments...please...please...please...share anything and everything!! Don't even feel obliged to leave your name, just share!  Love, Brynne

Thursday, June 4, 2009

THE APPOINTMENT

What if, on the first sunny day,
on your way to work, a colorful bird
sweeps in front of you down a
street you’ve never heard of.

You might pause and smile,
a sweet beginning to your day.

Or you might step into that street
and realize there are many ways to work.

You might sense the bird knows some-
thing you don’t and wander after.

You might hesitate when the bird
turns down an alley. For now
there is a tension: Is what the
bird knows worth being late?

You might go another block or two,
thinking you can have it both ways.
But soon you arrive at the edge
of all your plans.

The bird circles back for you
and you must decide which
appointment you were
born to keep.
--Mark Nepo